I struggle with this. I am not a greedy person, by nature. I do not covet my neighbor's things. I do not look at others and wish I had more -- or was more -- or any of that. So why do I say I struggle with this?
My boys.
I am so greedy for them -- for their time -- and I struggle with having to split their time with Sunshine. I know that it is unfair -- but I just really wish I didn't have to watch them leave with him - or drop them at his house. I hate that I have to split holidays with them. I hate that I don't tuck them in bed each night. I hate that I hear about things that happen after the fact or that they tell me that he won't let them call me. He is greedy too, it appears, and that angers me. I sometimes respond with anger, or worse, sarcasm and hatred. I really do not like myself when I crack.
I try to remember he deserves time with them. He loves them. He doesn't like this either -- divorce robs ALL of us. I try to remind them of that too when they are begging me to ask if they can stay longer or come earlier. I'm even going to guess that maybe they do that for him too -- to protect our hearts in their own way (12 and 9)...
...they want each of to know how much they love us....both.
And that's certainly not greedy.
That's beautiful.
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