I think it's kind of funny - so I'll post thinking you may as well. I'm not looking for a full 100% but anything over a 76% is passing in my book. :-) I post this at risk -- cause one day -- I will meet my own Mr. Right and he may either possess all or none of these. Just know that this is all in good fun. :-)
1. Loves me wholely
2. Loves my children/loves his children, if he has them. And if he does, no baby mama drama
3. Respects my parenting
4. Respects my children
5. Accepts my past
6. Actually gets along with Joel to a degree
7. Thinks I'm beautiful
8. Confidant, almost cocky
9. Makes me laugh
10. Sarcastic
11. Loves being in love
12. Slightly Flawed
13. Between 5'8 - 6'2
14. Between 185 - 225
15. Tattoos - several - and not just the barbwire kind and please no fraternity letters
16. Likes a woman (this woman, LOL) with tattoos -- who has plans to keep getting tattoos
17. Gorgeous in a man's man way
18. Good with his hands
19. Handy with cars
20. Can hang up a mean picture frame -- can even take the picture too
21. Handy man in general
22. Stable in his job
23. Possesses insurance of all kinds
24. Thinks about the future
25. Cares about our political future
26. Nonjudgemental but firm in his beliefs
27. Pro Choice -- or at least votes as such
28. Makes more than 45k - enough to take care of himself with room to play (I will handle my own)
29. Loves to pamper his woman
30. Polite -- Courteous
31. Opens doors, says Please and Thank you
32. Knows how to hold a fork (and knows how to tap a keg)
33. Puts his hand on the small of my back when we are walking
34. Looks at me like the whole world has disappeared around us
35. Is proud of me
36. My family loves him, especially my sister/brother in law and mom
37. Owns a Harley or has plans to
38. Loves the beach, especially impromptu trips
39. Drives a jeep, truck or SUV and not a lowered pimped out one
40. College educated or at least can hold his own and speak correctly
41. Parents still married
42. Spiritual but openminded - I'd love a man to will want to goto church with me -- but not the kind that would end our camping trip early to get back to bible study.
43. Openminded in general
44. Drinks alcohol
45. Doesn't smoke
46. Doesn't do drugs
47. Doesn't mind getting dirty -- but cleans up deliciously
48. Has brothers and sisters
49. Loves kids - mine, his, hers, theirs
50. Loves being on the water
51. Owns a boat or plans on partaking in water adventures (tubing, going to the lake, ocean, pool, hose in the backyard. LOL)
52. Rather have him bald than have long hair
53. Doesn't have a hairy back or butt -- or fixes that shit
54. Has a few close knit friends that accept me
55. Appreciates my independence
56. Appreciates my need for affection
57. Appreciates my need for being able to flip between the two
58. Football fan
59. Athletic, himself
60. Can do a mean BBQ
61. Clean -- but not a clean freak
62. Loves animals
63. Keeps his vehicle clean
64. Has a beautiful smile -- with beautiful straight teeth
65. Has good breath
66. Visits the dentist regularly
67. Likes to camp
68. Likes to fly
69. Doesn't gamble excessively - but enjoys a weekend trip to Vegas
70. Loves having sex
71. Sings Karaoke
72. Gets up when he gets down
73. Financially stable - if he doesn't own his own home -- he should be making preparations to do so
74. Listens to me talk about my dad
75. Has interests of his own that he's passionate about
76. Lived a life that lead to me -- can be crazy, or silly, as long as he's living in the moment with me right now.
77. Appreciates how far I've come
78. Pushes me to reach my dreams and then come up with new ones
79. My friends adore him
80. Doesn't mind fighting as long as it's fair and we resolve it.
81. Makes me feel safe -- look, I'm too old for the good ole bar room brawls but I want a man to defend me if the need arises, whatever that may be.
82. Piercings optional (can't be anti-piercings, clearly)
81. Doesn't need to stare at other naked people to get hot for me -- although isn't against it all the time. LOL
82. Loves music -- of all kinds -- especially live music (and bonus points if you can play an instrument....not talking rock band either)
83. Will dance with me in the rain
84. Makes me smile - better yet, full on belly laughs
85. Will watch chick flicks with me -- but not cry harder than I do. Movies about sports or war, tears will be allowed.
86. Sees the future with me not the moment with someone else
87. Makes me see it too
88. Looks at me with a devilish grin that makes me feel wanted
89. Looks into the mirror and truly likes the person that he is
90. Does sweet little things -- a note, a card, a picture and message just to let me know he is thinking about me
91. Wants to be an active participant in my children's lives and mine
92. Want me to be an active participant in his life
93. Be reachable. Not to an insane degree, but let me know where about you are in your day.
94. Cooks and Cleans....sometimes both, sometimes neither but always with good conversation
95. Cannot wear Tiva's -- nor should he wear jean shorts -- and as a general rule, tanktops are out, gentlemen (with the rare -- almost too rare -- exception of above said water activities increased ever so slightly with, also above mentioned, badass tattoos)
96. I wanna look at him come home after a long hard day of work or play and think I am the luckiest woman in the world
97. Loyal - to friends, family and me
98. Trusting -- of his friends, family and me
99. PDA is A-OK -- not in full makeout sessions (though perhaps there are times for those as well) but as in keep my hand in yours, or your hand on me -- kiss me when you get up, etc
100. Love me forever. Be armed with only the best intentions, the truest emotions, the map with the right directions and the fight to never give up and walk away.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
It's been a little while -- no reason, really, just living my life
...first and foremost, certainly the most exciting, is that I passed my nursing boards. It's official, I'm a Registered Nurse. :-) It's really hard to explain in writing how very monumental this is to me. What exactly do you do when the accumulation of blood, sweat, tears and hard hard work all come to fruition? It almost feels like I'm floating - aimlessly wondering what great adventure is next to grace my life. It's very exciting and I feel very blessed. It was huge for me AND for my family -- especially my children.
Speaking of which, Dane turned 10. Absolutely crazy. I have a boy in double digits! But more so, I have a great, smart, considerate and beautiful child. TWO of them actually. School starts again toward the end of this month. I have to figure out if I want to stay in my house. I have got to come up with a plan for money (or lack there of) I have a lot of things that I need to figure out. But you know what...I will.
So, last night -- in an epic phone conversation (that I LOVED) with someone that I have spent a considerable amount of time with as of late, we started to discuss the mere thought of "changing who we are." We debated how much of it is logical and thought out vs. how much of it is just being a product of our environment and who we surround ourselves with. I had the opportunity to talk about Joel -- and Justin -- and 2007...and what it all came down to is that I am SO NOT the same person. I couldn't go back to those days, even if I wanted to (not to fix things, amend things, change things or relive things)- I simply am not the same person anymore. And, instead of feeling a sadness and loss, there is more a feeling of overwhelming peace, freedom and fortitude to press on.
The last 5 months have been very telling. I was very very down when Justin and I broke up. I think I knew the "love" was based on lies and that I could never trust him (perhaps I never did) but I deeply missed my very best friend. I still miss him greatly. Only he could do those little things that made me laugh and get me thru those tough tough times... but I cherish friends like the one I had last night who understood that...who laughed with me and who celebrated with me when it dawned on me that perhaps the loss of that relationship was probably the ultimate catalyst of really becoming who I am today -- strong -- happy -- independent -- determined. And then in the midst of the 3rd hour conversation, it dawned on me....LIGHT BULB MOMENT
Justin and I will really probably be nothing but a blip on the computer screen when it comes to my life. I don't have children with him. I don't own anything with him or owe anything to him. We broke up and he walked away -- poof! He's out of my life and on with his own. There are remnants -- I still talk to his family. We occasionally text message. I still think about him at the mere glimpse or whisper of anything military. People still ask me about him -- and of course, looming, is 10/10/10. That day was suppose to be OUR day and I'm sure it will be very tough. But after that -- I really truly don't see any sort of relationship continuing. I don't need to know about his love life and he certainly doesn't need to know about mine -- and with time passing, he will become quite simply "the one I dated right after my divorce" and nothing more. I remember my divorced friends mentioning "the one after" and thinking, "that will never be me." Well **that person** couldn't fathom meeting the person I am now, either. And, I get it, now...which makes it all easier to leap ahead with caution yet excitement into my next phase of my life.
And I'm thrilled for the ability to have bounced -- not backwards -- but to a new day!
Speaking of which, Dane turned 10. Absolutely crazy. I have a boy in double digits! But more so, I have a great, smart, considerate and beautiful child. TWO of them actually. School starts again toward the end of this month. I have to figure out if I want to stay in my house. I have got to come up with a plan for money (or lack there of) I have a lot of things that I need to figure out. But you know what...I will.
So, last night -- in an epic phone conversation (that I LOVED) with someone that I have spent a considerable amount of time with as of late, we started to discuss the mere thought of "changing who we are." We debated how much of it is logical and thought out vs. how much of it is just being a product of our environment and who we surround ourselves with. I had the opportunity to talk about Joel -- and Justin -- and 2007...and what it all came down to is that I am SO NOT the same person. I couldn't go back to those days, even if I wanted to (not to fix things, amend things, change things or relive things)- I simply am not the same person anymore. And, instead of feeling a sadness and loss, there is more a feeling of overwhelming peace, freedom and fortitude to press on.
The last 5 months have been very telling. I was very very down when Justin and I broke up. I think I knew the "love" was based on lies and that I could never trust him (perhaps I never did) but I deeply missed my very best friend. I still miss him greatly. Only he could do those little things that made me laugh and get me thru those tough tough times... but I cherish friends like the one I had last night who understood that...who laughed with me and who celebrated with me when it dawned on me that perhaps the loss of that relationship was probably the ultimate catalyst of really becoming who I am today -- strong -- happy -- independent -- determined. And then in the midst of the 3rd hour conversation, it dawned on me....LIGHT BULB MOMENT
Justin and I will really probably be nothing but a blip on the computer screen when it comes to my life. I don't have children with him. I don't own anything with him or owe anything to him. We broke up and he walked away -- poof! He's out of my life and on with his own. There are remnants -- I still talk to his family. We occasionally text message. I still think about him at the mere glimpse or whisper of anything military. People still ask me about him -- and of course, looming, is 10/10/10. That day was suppose to be OUR day and I'm sure it will be very tough. But after that -- I really truly don't see any sort of relationship continuing. I don't need to know about his love life and he certainly doesn't need to know about mine -- and with time passing, he will become quite simply "the one I dated right after my divorce" and nothing more. I remember my divorced friends mentioning "the one after" and thinking, "that will never be me." Well **that person** couldn't fathom meeting the person I am now, either. And, I get it, now...which makes it all easier to leap ahead with caution yet excitement into my next phase of my life.
And I'm thrilled for the ability to have bounced -- not backwards -- but to a new day!
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